Daughter away at University. Soon to be 20 sends me this message out of nowhere…Makes me think we did ok. Hope you all get a laugh out of it.
“ I have never been happier that mom is in fact my mother. Almost everyone here was raised by a crazy, overweight leftist bitch and a soyboy beta cuck father. I’ve never been more thankful that you and mom are my parents. 🥹😌🙌🙏”
LMAO!!!! AWESOME! And CONGRATULATIONS on you and your wife having raised a daughter that can see REALITY - and NOT succumb to the collectivist rigid MARXIST insanity that for DECADES, now, has infected academia throughout the USA.
Meet the first Karen...Your Daughter will enjoy this real story.
Famous Case: Karen Byrne
One of the most well-known cases involves a woman named Karen Byrne, whose left hand would unbutton her shirt or slap her face immediately after her right hand (controlled by her left brain) did something the other side "disliked". She described it as having "two different people" in one body.
That story is a chilling but real example of a neurological phenomenon, though it usually results from a severed corpus callosum (the main bridge between the brain's hemispheres) rather than just the optic chiasm.
OK Thomas. sometimes even though you are democrat or RINO.. you seem to get the gist of it. Words matter, duh, like the dimwit left wing press give lip service to but do not apply this concept to themselves. As writer: I keep track of the T.P.(talking points) on the fake left wing news media: root causes.. top of mind and other word salad type observations.. but I do agree with you this time. SLIDING INTO OBLIVION IS THE ACTUALLY A MORE PALATABLE PASSING THEN THE LEFT and FAKE NEWS DEMONCRATS HAVE PLANNED for the NWO.
I am Christian. so exempted by the blood of Christ
In my 40 years as a family law lawyer, all of my women clients from India were dominated and/or abused by their husbands. Most of the marriages were pre-arranged. My experience and that of my colleagues does not accord with your description of Indian marriages. Many of the women are afraid to leave despite the abuse. This may explain the low divorce rate.
Good advice, Dr Malone. Strong marriages are a partnership, where each partner has responsibilities to support the family. There is no room for the narcissistic behavior we see so prevalent today.
I was interested in the Japanese model you discussed where automation and robotics have replaced the lack of workers, therefore, not creating a need for an increased population. In this way, our culture can be maintained without the need for immigrants who do not want to assimilate into our society.
My younger (American) daughter and her (American) husband are right now living in Japan, where their children attend an international school. She and a group of Japanese girlfriends go out fairly often to enjoy karaoke singing while their husbands stay home with the children. There seems to be a nice integration of tradition and marital interdependence developing there.
According to my Japanese and Indian friends, those traditional and stable, cultures/marriages/families have long embraced extra-marital sexual relationships as a normal matter-of-course. No problem.
Hmmm. Maybe. I've spent time in India, and I often FaceTime with my daughter in Japan about life there, and I have no verification of the Westernization of marriages you've been told about. I hope it's not true, because infidelity WOULD be a problem. It always is.
I disagree. It's a problem, period. It causes violence between people whether anyone is willing to admit it or not. Unless you think that irrational violence between people is no problem, infidelity is a problem - everywhere.
Right. "RELATIVISM" in transactional relationships.. I see..
Freud himself was a PERVERT and had sex with own daughter. so I think once again I will stick to the BIBLE. which says "that is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” – Genesis 2:24" Jesus was asked about the Old Testament Patriarchs (like Solomon who had 700 wives and 300 concubines.. YEP.. Jesus confirmed that Marriage is between a man and woman.. they shall become as one Flesh. THE BIBLE IS FULL OF "COMMENTARY" ON MALE AND FEMALES.
That is unfortunate.. and I think it is true of the nations you named. Japan and India are either Buddhist or Shinto. whatever.. in the PAST HISTORY of World wide culture this is actually true;; which shows me that those people will either be recycled.. into a hot place or never make past planet earth. HAVE EXTRA MARITAL AFFAIRS IS NOT ACCEPTABLE .. and totally OBJECTIFIED SEX and WOMEN.
I have a friend who lives in Japan. He is an old white bachelor like me. Though I see him as a bit female-obsessed compared to me, he likes it there. Women there who don't want to play the traditional female roles can get into music and other fields, where they are much better supported (it seems) than they are here. The men there, on the other hand, seem a bit female-obsessed. And it is said that abuse of both boys and women by older men is grossly under-reported. So sex has it up sides and its down sides. We are lucky on Earth in having a technology that could remedy this. But it remains largely unexplored in the intellectual community.
In America, AI/robotics are rapidly taking over our economy. The result is vast numbers of workers losing their means of making a living. Young families become desperate. Young people observe the difficulty of supporting a family, let alone themselves.
As a boy of the 1970s, and richly familiar with the repercussions of divorce, I recall much of the cultural stimuli that told us we over-consumed, over-polluted, over-populated. Good that we all absorbed the messaging, and did the responsible thing, right?
Now we have below replacement level birthrates. Whoopsie. Now the cultural stimuli tell us we must embrace invasion, limitless demographic change, abandonment of traditions, and the globalist paradigm, in order to survive economically.
One wonders whether this plan was at work all along.
One of the most striking book chapters I ever remember reading was chapter 6, "Breakthrough," from Andrew Breitbart's "Righteous Indignation." I've posted this excerpt here at least once before. It's in reference to the Frankfurt School's Herbert Marcuse, who after immigrating to the US in the 1930s, made his tour of high-level posts in government and Ivy League academia. It applies to the culturally fomented war between the sexes and against traditional notions of family.
<<Marcuse's mission was to dismantle American society by using diversity and "multiculturalism" as crowbars with which to pry the structure apart, piece by piece. He wanted to set blacks in opposition to whites, set all "victim groups" in opposition to the society at large. Marcuse's theory of victim groups as the new proletariat, combined with Horkheimer's critical theory, found an outlet in academia, where it became the basis for the post-structural movement - Gender Studies, LGBT/"Queer" Studies, African-American Studies, Chicano Studies, etc. All of these "Blank Studies" brazenly describe their mission as tearing down traditional Judeo-Christian values and the accepted traditions of Western culture, and placing in their stead a moral relativism that equates all cultures and all philosophies - except for Western civilization, culture, and philosophy, which are "exploitative" and "bad.">>
This rings true for me, and rings loudly.
I married late, and have no children. As a young man, I was terrified by the notion of fatherhood and its accompanying responsibilities. As a now-older uncle to numerous nieces and nephews (of an immigrant family), I think I might have been good at it. But that ship has sailed.
Considering this dork Marcuse, what are your thoughts on his motivation? Do you believe they were pure evil or was he one of many floundering in pride for fame while parroting Marxist dogma in relative ignorance? Did he really want to dismember America for some rational (somehow?) reason?
I appreciate Andrew Breitbart for reading Marcuse, so I don't have to. I've trudged through some pretty awful prose throughout my reading history, but there's only so much I can take. The Frankfurt School brand of societal annihilation is beyond the pale for me. IMHO, a major advantage to a career in the social sciences is that one can be wildly, insanely wrong, and still enjoy laurels and light consequences.
His motivation? Marx. Lenin. Stalin. Gramsci. Alinsky. Schwab. Harari. What are theirs? Something in their depraved minds that caused/causes them to believe people seek and deserve authoritarian control and immense suffering.
I'm thinking those "influencers" you list are not concerned with what people seek or deserve. They "know" that their own beliefs are the correct ones, and thus they "know" what is best for everyone else. Thus Global Control becomes The Path for civilization at multiple levels.
YOU GOT IT. right I am so sorry for you but you did the right thing. and right on Marcuze too. One of the most striking book chapters I ever remember reading was chapter 6, "Breakthrough," from Andrew Breitbart's "Righteous Indignation." VERY ASUTE ON YOUR PART. That is Ok.. my oldest will not have children because of running the clock out.. in terms of age of his wife.. she got breast cancer when she was 38.. so.. that settled it. Very sad day for me and Karla. TO ME: MY SONS have been one of the biggest BLESSINGS in my life.. and learning experience for me as well.. :) and they are men of faith and character. PTL
I’m a firm believer in marriage. My husband is my best friend. As a lot of you know I was married to an abusive husband for 22 years .I married and 19 and had my first baby a year later. But thankfully I got out of that mess and found a wonderful man and we have been married for 26 years. My parents were married for 66 years. They were so cute. Mom would climb up on dad’s lap and snuggle with him. When dad had to be put in a dementia unit I would take mom to visit him. She would put her hands on both cheeks and kiss him several times. It made me teary eye to see such love. Then she would crawl up on his lap and snuggle with him. They were in their eighties. It was such a sweet thing to witness. Because I had my first 4 children before I was thirty I was a grandma at age 41 and a great grandma at age 65. If I live into my mid eighties I could be a great great grandma . How cool is that. That is 5 generations. I had my last baby at age 46. She got married at 20 and had a baby at 21. My son and 5th child, had a baby this year. So now we are starting another group of grand babies who are the same age as my great grandma babies. What a joyful thing to have family! My daughters live close by. On daughter lives 6 minutes away and they other daughter lives 50 minutes away. They are my best girlfriends. I have 2 sons that live near by and 2 sons that live in other states. I think it is a good idea to live close to grandparents. Sometimes the grandchildren will listen to their grandparents if they don’t listen to advice from their parents.
Life is hard but if your spouse is your best friend you can get through anything together.
The foundational problem is our secularized culture, which instills a belief that we can fix our problems on our own. First comes God, then come families - everything else is the result of that. Without God, we are just a bacterial colony growing on a media in petri dish. I have some booklets on this matter that I have written, which you should read - please contact me via my email.
I have not read your booklets Peter but figure you are hinting at the following:
If I were king. . . ha! ha!
-- Society needs lawmakers who come from full family units in order to be more likely to promote such. Motivations and rewards for this could assist in attracting and keeping such lawmakers in place while discouraging single "odd" folks.[better compensation for family legislator; better retirement and healthcare; much less than that for any single person.
-- Likewise, lawmakers from rural backgrounds should be encouraged while urban less so; quotas for only so many with urban backgrounds; legislators who represent 2 rural zones for every single urban zone; lawmakers with more than 15 years in industry, manufacturing, or farming should be encouraged and motivated and valued more than low experience 20's somethings.
-- The family UNIT needs to be viewed as sacred throughout society and specially by any government entity.
-- No Laws should be allowed that in any way: 1) reduce SOLID and complete FAMILY units[fathers, mothers, children as one with father running the show and giving example], 2) denigrate this protocol in actions or dogma
-- No invasion of ANY home known to contain a FULL family unit by law enforcement unless death, bodily harm, or rape is imminent OR prior felony conviction involved. NO way on issues involving simple law enforcement.
-- All Law should prioritize the above and become dead laws when such fails.
-- Churches SHOULD emphasize the importance TRADITIONAL family structure and not address at ALL the non-hetero alternatives;
SHOULD emphasize the need for pursuing continued marriage rather than divorce at all costs at least until children are out of HS;
SHOULD attract only male, father-potential ministers with full family units and allow all present non-father leaders to leave via attrition.
I've watched the decline of our society for decades. I could point to all sorts of reasons, including the rise of rabid feminism. However, I do have a spark of hope given I've watched my oldest granddaughter, who has a doctorate in physical therapy, and who is happily married with two beautiful children. She and her husband are devoted parents, teaching strong principals to their kids. But, even better, their circle of friends are marrying and doing the same. Maybe there has been a turning? Regardless, today is Hubs and my fortieth anniversary. We both had previous marriages but this one stuck. And, of course, I wrote a song.
Have to be careful about apple and orange comparisons here. Asian cultures still today are quite misogynistic. Once had a Japanese man jokingly congratulate me on my Japanese trait of my wife always,a couple,of,steps,behind me as we scurried out of the parking lot to work and I had a fascinating conversation with a pair of Indian ladies about how male prejudice hampered job advancement for females. Also women pretty well expected to put up with husbands since most marriages there are arranged by the families and that includes the wives putting up with hubby tomcatting around with ladies of the night. Its their culture and probably why so many Indian females with advanced degrees, earned here or there, seek permanent employment here.
Further commenting on the India Indians.. who I have worked with for decades in both medicine or computers (those in my wheelhouse) my son, John who is WHITE MALE HETEROSEXUAL.. did work with Cvent and other companies whose main employees are INDIANs. and can do a PERFECT accent.. like the Satya Nadella Microsoft not pronouncing A.I products correctly and makes fun of them all time. They run sweat work shops.. aside from their other issues like INFIDELITY. On the good side: the India Indians stick to their own kind.. which is interesting observation.. it may be 10 "wives" to use the bible term
EXACTLY: American women are unique in the world and I don't take that for granted... I also have traveled around. Unlike the INGRATES,, women who love to hate MEN. I am profoundly grateful for my faith and I like MEN and WOMEN very much... AGAPE love.. being Heterosexual straight female. I am glad I grew up when I did and my sons are also Heterosexual straight males.. and Christian conservatives: IS IT GENETIC.. I read there may be a case for the CONSERVATIVE side and also people who PRAY.
Surely an interesting and timely topic. As a failure on that score, I do however have some reflections.
My childhood memories start living with my mother and her parents. My father lived with us occasionally, he found us/me hard to tolerate. My grandfather was a saint protecting and entertaining me. I loved him and his workbench. My grandmother hated him and my relations with her (as a germ bag) were constrained. Mother pursued a successful professional career to support us. Looking back Dad said he worked for McCarthy and Mom idealized Margaret Mead.
My Mother's asperations for me were as a wife and mother in the little cottage with a picket fence.
From there I would suggest schooling was/is sorely lacking. Early introduction to personal/family finances were never touched. Explorations as to ways forward - possibilities of marriage, homemaking and its rewards vs careers and alternative strategies were never covered. As a single, I'm not up on education today, but I have heard criticisms along those lines.
My own take was going into a marriage should include commitment to ones partner and focused on a successful union meeting the challenges to achieve as successful constructive life together. As for children, I felt a loving involved father was critical.
In a marital relationship, I found it preferred that I be not too bright and subserviant. Eventually I was unable to maintain such an acceptability. I delayed child bearing until I was sure there would be strong fathering in a successful relationship. That never happened.
As for your perscription. The smaller (farming) community with family, friends, faith and community does seem ideal. It offers many components of success informally.
On the other hand, we have perhaps the bulk of our population embedded in major cities. Public education indoctrinations substantially failing (imo) to facilitate successful marriages, critical thinking and responsible adulthood.
Fascinating & timely. Dr. M. This topic has come up a lot in my ‘feed’ lately. Matt Walsh did a piece on it just the other day. I don’t think you need a PHD to connect the dots between the breakdown of the natural order (men are men & women are women) and the ‘mass formation psychosis’ (aka liberal white women) so prevalent today. It really is not nice to fool Mother Nature & I suspect in the end she will have the final say. Regardless, the turnaround is stunning. I am 75 YO, maybe a lot of years for an individual, but a nanosecond in population years. And yet my life is bookended by a divorce being met with virtual ostracism to today where ‘I-am-getting-married is met with ‘what the hell is wrong with you?’. When you noted that you & Jill would be celebrating 47 years, I harken back to a time when marriage/families was approached on the basis of not what can I get, but what can I give.
I agree with some but not all of your points. I was once married to a stable dependable man and bored to death because he was just a friend, not someone with a spark of that certain chemistry. Divorced after seven years. We need both stability and sparkiness in a life partnership. But the main problem is that young people cannot afford housing and other basics necessary to form families. Look please at the problem of gross wealth inequality and discover the "land problem" and what to do about it. You come from the right. You need a right analysis that understands and can address wealth and thus power inequality otherwise you will continue to scorn those with this understanding as being "lefties."
Daughter away at University. Soon to be 20 sends me this message out of nowhere…Makes me think we did ok. Hope you all get a laugh out of it.
“ I have never been happier that mom is in fact my mother. Almost everyone here was raised by a crazy, overweight leftist bitch and a soyboy beta cuck father. I’ve never been more thankful that you and mom are my parents. 🥹😌🙌🙏”
LMAO!!!! AWESOME! And CONGRATULATIONS on you and your wife having raised a daughter that can see REALITY - and NOT succumb to the collectivist rigid MARXIST insanity that for DECADES, now, has infected academia throughout the USA.
Two sons?
Two sons? WHAT, Jean?
He has written about their having two sons and shared pictures of one. I don't recall his reporting about any daughter(s).
Click the link. The boys are all boy. The 17 year old enlisted in USMC as soon as he graduates HS.
Can’t wait. When he goes to boot camp my food bill will be cut in half.
https://open.substack.com/chat/posts/fc290ffa-df06-449f-b57a-04b10518f941?utm_source=share
Wow.
Mark you done good!
👍
Meet the first Karen...Your Daughter will enjoy this real story.
Famous Case: Karen Byrne
One of the most well-known cases involves a woman named Karen Byrne, whose left hand would unbutton her shirt or slap her face immediately after her right hand (controlled by her left brain) did something the other side "disliked". She described it as having "two different people" in one body.
That story is a chilling but real example of a neurological phenomenon, though it usually results from a severed corpus callosum (the main bridge between the brain's hemispheres) rather than just the optic chiasm.
OMG. wow. it must be bad out here.
When governmental policies destroy family formation, we need to call out the root causes.
We have social, economic and medical programs in place that are anti-family formation.
Unless these are addressed, we will continue to slide into oblivion.
OK Thomas. sometimes even though you are democrat or RINO.. you seem to get the gist of it. Words matter, duh, like the dimwit left wing press give lip service to but do not apply this concept to themselves. As writer: I keep track of the T.P.(talking points) on the fake left wing news media: root causes.. top of mind and other word salad type observations.. but I do agree with you this time. SLIDING INTO OBLIVION IS THE ACTUALLY A MORE PALATABLE PASSING THEN THE LEFT and FAKE NEWS DEMONCRATS HAVE PLANNED for the NWO.
I am Christian. so exempted by the blood of Christ
In my 40 years as a family law lawyer, all of my women clients from India were dominated and/or abused by their husbands. Most of the marriages were pre-arranged. My experience and that of my colleagues does not accord with your description of Indian marriages. Many of the women are afraid to leave despite the abuse. This may explain the low divorce rate.
Too simple an example from Dr. Malone, I would concur.
So would I.
Exactly!
Good advice, Dr Malone. Strong marriages are a partnership, where each partner has responsibilities to support the family. There is no room for the narcissistic behavior we see so prevalent today.
I was interested in the Japanese model you discussed where automation and robotics have replaced the lack of workers, therefore, not creating a need for an increased population. In this way, our culture can be maintained without the need for immigrants who do not want to assimilate into our society.
Thank you for this thoughtful essay!!
My younger (American) daughter and her (American) husband are right now living in Japan, where their children attend an international school. She and a group of Japanese girlfriends go out fairly often to enjoy karaoke singing while their husbands stay home with the children. There seems to be a nice integration of tradition and marital interdependence developing there.
According to my Japanese and Indian friends, those traditional and stable, cultures/marriages/families have long embraced extra-marital sexual relationships as a normal matter-of-course. No problem.
Hmmm. Maybe. I've spent time in India, and I often FaceTime with my daughter in Japan about life there, and I have no verification of the Westernization of marriages you've been told about. I hope it's not true, because infidelity WOULD be a problem. It always is.
Apparently whether or not infidelity is a problem depends on the personal and cultural point of view/value system.
I disagree. It's a problem, period. It causes violence between people whether anyone is willing to admit it or not. Unless you think that irrational violence between people is no problem, infidelity is a problem - everywhere.
Right. "RELATIVISM" in transactional relationships.. I see..
Freud himself was a PERVERT and had sex with own daughter. so I think once again I will stick to the BIBLE. which says "that is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” – Genesis 2:24" Jesus was asked about the Old Testament Patriarchs (like Solomon who had 700 wives and 300 concubines.. YEP.. Jesus confirmed that Marriage is between a man and woman.. they shall become as one Flesh. THE BIBLE IS FULL OF "COMMENTARY" ON MALE AND FEMALES.
Yes.
That is unfortunate.. and I think it is true of the nations you named. Japan and India are either Buddhist or Shinto. whatever.. in the PAST HISTORY of World wide culture this is actually true;; which shows me that those people will either be recycled.. into a hot place or never make past planet earth. HAVE EXTRA MARITAL AFFAIRS IS NOT ACCEPTABLE .. and totally OBJECTIFIED SEX and WOMEN.
And men.
I have a friend who lives in Japan. He is an old white bachelor like me. Though I see him as a bit female-obsessed compared to me, he likes it there. Women there who don't want to play the traditional female roles can get into music and other fields, where they are much better supported (it seems) than they are here. The men there, on the other hand, seem a bit female-obsessed. And it is said that abuse of both boys and women by older men is grossly under-reported. So sex has it up sides and its down sides. We are lucky on Earth in having a technology that could remedy this. But it remains largely unexplored in the intellectual community.
What technology that could remedy . . . what? Please elaborate.
In America, AI/robotics are rapidly taking over our economy. The result is vast numbers of workers losing their means of making a living. Young families become desperate. Young people observe the difficulty of supporting a family, let alone themselves.
We are entering a Golden Age in which everyone will have enough of everything they need, and bots will relieve us all of a lot of grunt work.
As a boy of the 1970s, and richly familiar with the repercussions of divorce, I recall much of the cultural stimuli that told us we over-consumed, over-polluted, over-populated. Good that we all absorbed the messaging, and did the responsible thing, right?
Now we have below replacement level birthrates. Whoopsie. Now the cultural stimuli tell us we must embrace invasion, limitless demographic change, abandonment of traditions, and the globalist paradigm, in order to survive economically.
One wonders whether this plan was at work all along.
One of the most striking book chapters I ever remember reading was chapter 6, "Breakthrough," from Andrew Breitbart's "Righteous Indignation." I've posted this excerpt here at least once before. It's in reference to the Frankfurt School's Herbert Marcuse, who after immigrating to the US in the 1930s, made his tour of high-level posts in government and Ivy League academia. It applies to the culturally fomented war between the sexes and against traditional notions of family.
<<Marcuse's mission was to dismantle American society by using diversity and "multiculturalism" as crowbars with which to pry the structure apart, piece by piece. He wanted to set blacks in opposition to whites, set all "victim groups" in opposition to the society at large. Marcuse's theory of victim groups as the new proletariat, combined with Horkheimer's critical theory, found an outlet in academia, where it became the basis for the post-structural movement - Gender Studies, LGBT/"Queer" Studies, African-American Studies, Chicano Studies, etc. All of these "Blank Studies" brazenly describe their mission as tearing down traditional Judeo-Christian values and the accepted traditions of Western culture, and placing in their stead a moral relativism that equates all cultures and all philosophies - except for Western civilization, culture, and philosophy, which are "exploitative" and "bad.">>
This rings true for me, and rings loudly.
I married late, and have no children. As a young man, I was terrified by the notion of fatherhood and its accompanying responsibilities. As a now-older uncle to numerous nieces and nephews (of an immigrant family), I think I might have been good at it. But that ship has sailed.
Yeah, I think you would have too James.
Considering this dork Marcuse, what are your thoughts on his motivation? Do you believe they were pure evil or was he one of many floundering in pride for fame while parroting Marxist dogma in relative ignorance? Did he really want to dismember America for some rational (somehow?) reason?
I appreciate Andrew Breitbart for reading Marcuse, so I don't have to. I've trudged through some pretty awful prose throughout my reading history, but there's only so much I can take. The Frankfurt School brand of societal annihilation is beyond the pale for me. IMHO, a major advantage to a career in the social sciences is that one can be wildly, insanely wrong, and still enjoy laurels and light consequences.
His motivation? Marx. Lenin. Stalin. Gramsci. Alinsky. Schwab. Harari. What are theirs? Something in their depraved minds that caused/causes them to believe people seek and deserve authoritarian control and immense suffering.
I'm thinking those "influencers" you list are not concerned with what people seek or deserve. They "know" that their own beliefs are the correct ones, and thus they "know" what is best for everyone else. Thus Global Control becomes The Path for civilization at multiple levels.
YOU GOT IT. right I am so sorry for you but you did the right thing. and right on Marcuze too. One of the most striking book chapters I ever remember reading was chapter 6, "Breakthrough," from Andrew Breitbart's "Righteous Indignation." VERY ASUTE ON YOUR PART. That is Ok.. my oldest will not have children because of running the clock out.. in terms of age of his wife.. she got breast cancer when she was 38.. so.. that settled it. Very sad day for me and Karla. TO ME: MY SONS have been one of the biggest BLESSINGS in my life.. and learning experience for me as well.. :) and they are men of faith and character. PTL
I’m a firm believer in marriage. My husband is my best friend. As a lot of you know I was married to an abusive husband for 22 years .I married and 19 and had my first baby a year later. But thankfully I got out of that mess and found a wonderful man and we have been married for 26 years. My parents were married for 66 years. They were so cute. Mom would climb up on dad’s lap and snuggle with him. When dad had to be put in a dementia unit I would take mom to visit him. She would put her hands on both cheeks and kiss him several times. It made me teary eye to see such love. Then she would crawl up on his lap and snuggle with him. They were in their eighties. It was such a sweet thing to witness. Because I had my first 4 children before I was thirty I was a grandma at age 41 and a great grandma at age 65. If I live into my mid eighties I could be a great great grandma . How cool is that. That is 5 generations. I had my last baby at age 46. She got married at 20 and had a baby at 21. My son and 5th child, had a baby this year. So now we are starting another group of grand babies who are the same age as my great grandma babies. What a joyful thing to have family! My daughters live close by. On daughter lives 6 minutes away and they other daughter lives 50 minutes away. They are my best girlfriends. I have 2 sons that live near by and 2 sons that live in other states. I think it is a good idea to live close to grandparents. Sometimes the grandchildren will listen to their grandparents if they don’t listen to advice from their parents.
Life is hard but if your spouse is your best friend you can get through anything together.
The foundational problem is our secularized culture, which instills a belief that we can fix our problems on our own. First comes God, then come families - everything else is the result of that. Without God, we are just a bacterial colony growing on a media in petri dish. I have some booklets on this matter that I have written, which you should read - please contact me via my email.
Whether we know it or not, we are never without God--unless we're without a soul.
I have not read your booklets Peter but figure you are hinting at the following:
If I were king. . . ha! ha!
-- Society needs lawmakers who come from full family units in order to be more likely to promote such. Motivations and rewards for this could assist in attracting and keeping such lawmakers in place while discouraging single "odd" folks.[better compensation for family legislator; better retirement and healthcare; much less than that for any single person.
-- Likewise, lawmakers from rural backgrounds should be encouraged while urban less so; quotas for only so many with urban backgrounds; legislators who represent 2 rural zones for every single urban zone; lawmakers with more than 15 years in industry, manufacturing, or farming should be encouraged and motivated and valued more than low experience 20's somethings.
-- The family UNIT needs to be viewed as sacred throughout society and specially by any government entity.
-- No Laws should be allowed that in any way: 1) reduce SOLID and complete FAMILY units[fathers, mothers, children as one with father running the show and giving example], 2) denigrate this protocol in actions or dogma
-- No invasion of ANY home known to contain a FULL family unit by law enforcement unless death, bodily harm, or rape is imminent OR prior felony conviction involved. NO way on issues involving simple law enforcement.
-- All Law should prioritize the above and become dead laws when such fails.
-- Churches SHOULD emphasize the importance TRADITIONAL family structure and not address at ALL the non-hetero alternatives;
SHOULD emphasize the need for pursuing continued marriage rather than divorce at all costs at least until children are out of HS;
SHOULD attract only male, father-potential ministers with full family units and allow all present non-father leaders to leave via attrition.
I could go on but ya'll get the point.
ROFL. I get it. and I am glad you are not in charge. :)
me too.
I've watched the decline of our society for decades. I could point to all sorts of reasons, including the rise of rabid feminism. However, I do have a spark of hope given I've watched my oldest granddaughter, who has a doctorate in physical therapy, and who is happily married with two beautiful children. She and her husband are devoted parents, teaching strong principals to their kids. But, even better, their circle of friends are marrying and doing the same. Maybe there has been a turning? Regardless, today is Hubs and my fortieth anniversary. We both had previous marriages but this one stuck. And, of course, I wrote a song.
https://meemanator.substack.com/p/four-oh
very cool. listening now.. :) wow. that is awesome.. well done... who is singing that..
Congrats on your 40th anniversary
Why look so far away as India for martial examples ? What about the Amish ?
Have to be careful about apple and orange comparisons here. Asian cultures still today are quite misogynistic. Once had a Japanese man jokingly congratulate me on my Japanese trait of my wife always,a couple,of,steps,behind me as we scurried out of the parking lot to work and I had a fascinating conversation with a pair of Indian ladies about how male prejudice hampered job advancement for females. Also women pretty well expected to put up with husbands since most marriages there are arranged by the families and that includes the wives putting up with hubby tomcatting around with ladies of the night. Its their culture and probably why so many Indian females with advanced degrees, earned here or there, seek permanent employment here.
Further commenting on the India Indians.. who I have worked with for decades in both medicine or computers (those in my wheelhouse) my son, John who is WHITE MALE HETEROSEXUAL.. did work with Cvent and other companies whose main employees are INDIANs. and can do a PERFECT accent.. like the Satya Nadella Microsoft not pronouncing A.I products correctly and makes fun of them all time. They run sweat work shops.. aside from their other issues like INFIDELITY. On the good side: the India Indians stick to their own kind.. which is interesting observation.. it may be 10 "wives" to use the bible term
EXACTLY: American women are unique in the world and I don't take that for granted... I also have traveled around. Unlike the INGRATES,, women who love to hate MEN. I am profoundly grateful for my faith and I like MEN and WOMEN very much... AGAPE love.. being Heterosexual straight female. I am glad I grew up when I did and my sons are also Heterosexual straight males.. and Christian conservatives: IS IT GENETIC.. I read there may be a case for the CONSERVATIVE side and also people who PRAY.
Surely an interesting and timely topic. As a failure on that score, I do however have some reflections.
My childhood memories start living with my mother and her parents. My father lived with us occasionally, he found us/me hard to tolerate. My grandfather was a saint protecting and entertaining me. I loved him and his workbench. My grandmother hated him and my relations with her (as a germ bag) were constrained. Mother pursued a successful professional career to support us. Looking back Dad said he worked for McCarthy and Mom idealized Margaret Mead.
My Mother's asperations for me were as a wife and mother in the little cottage with a picket fence.
From there I would suggest schooling was/is sorely lacking. Early introduction to personal/family finances were never touched. Explorations as to ways forward - possibilities of marriage, homemaking and its rewards vs careers and alternative strategies were never covered. As a single, I'm not up on education today, but I have heard criticisms along those lines.
My own take was going into a marriage should include commitment to ones partner and focused on a successful union meeting the challenges to achieve as successful constructive life together. As for children, I felt a loving involved father was critical.
In a marital relationship, I found it preferred that I be not too bright and subserviant. Eventually I was unable to maintain such an acceptability. I delayed child bearing until I was sure there would be strong fathering in a successful relationship. That never happened.
As for your perscription. The smaller (farming) community with family, friends, faith and community does seem ideal. It offers many components of success informally.
On the other hand, we have perhaps the bulk of our population embedded in major cities. Public education indoctrinations substantially failing (imo) to facilitate successful marriages, critical thinking and responsible adulthood.
Who is your target audience?
Fascinating & timely. Dr. M. This topic has come up a lot in my ‘feed’ lately. Matt Walsh did a piece on it just the other day. I don’t think you need a PHD to connect the dots between the breakdown of the natural order (men are men & women are women) and the ‘mass formation psychosis’ (aka liberal white women) so prevalent today. It really is not nice to fool Mother Nature & I suspect in the end she will have the final say. Regardless, the turnaround is stunning. I am 75 YO, maybe a lot of years for an individual, but a nanosecond in population years. And yet my life is bookended by a divorce being met with virtual ostracism to today where ‘I-am-getting-married is met with ‘what the hell is wrong with you?’. When you noted that you & Jill would be celebrating 47 years, I harken back to a time when marriage/families was approached on the basis of not what can I get, but what can I give.
Beautiful! A return to basics.
Excellent Dr. Malone. Thank you.
GREAT POST. MY OPINION -- BEING TRAPPED WITH A DECLINING POPULATION IS A PATH TO "GAME OVER," THE DEATH OF A NATION. SEE ROME FOR DETAILS.
THE FACT THAT WE SUFFER THIS IS A FORM OF WARFARE. WE ARE LOSING.
I agree with some but not all of your points. I was once married to a stable dependable man and bored to death because he was just a friend, not someone with a spark of that certain chemistry. Divorced after seven years. We need both stability and sparkiness in a life partnership. But the main problem is that young people cannot afford housing and other basics necessary to form families. Look please at the problem of gross wealth inequality and discover the "land problem" and what to do about it. You come from the right. You need a right analysis that understands and can address wealth and thus power inequality otherwise you will continue to scorn those with this understanding as being "lefties."